So I'm just reconsidering my relationship right now. I've felt amazing with this 22 year old guy I met in university and we started dating last year since June. But I'm wondering if he's good for me in the long run. We have both probably adjusted for each other a bit and that has made us happy. There are some things that I know I don't like about him but I can adjust if that helps us keep going. He is autistic. Sometimes I feel the need to explain stuff to him. I'm a very emotional person and he doesn't really understand emotions. Like he listens to me and calms me down but I don't think he understands me as a person. And I just always wanted someone who would understand me. But he does consoles and cuddles me. Also, I'm very fashionable and stuff and he dresses almost like a straight guy. Our music tastes are also different. He listens to classical and parody songs while I'm just into white girl music and sad boy pop. And he's very physical with his love language. Like I'm not comfortable with PDA but he's and it sometimes makes me uncomfortable. He's also a furry which I've mixed opinions about. I think it's okay to a certain extent but it feels weird. I hear that it's mostly a youngster thing so maybe he'll grow out of it over the years but I don't think I'm a good person and partner for saying that. I'm not sure. Should I even tell him about this? Should I ask him to adjust more for me because he clearly wants me in his life in the long run?
But don't get it wrong. I've probably felt the most happiest in my life with him over the past months. He also improved me in terms of my studies and health. I also met his family and they are so sweet and lovely. He's understanding, probably the most cooperative person I've ever known because I'm usually very busy with my stuff and he adjusts his schedule multiple times because of me. He's also a very outdoor person so he plans small trips for us here and there and I love it. Also, being gay can sometimes feel lonely especially when you have three straight brothers and study and work in engineering.
We both want a long term relationship in life. Neither of us is just looking for sex or hookups. He once told me he's very happy that we met in university (the traditional way) instead of going on dating apps because we both know grindr is a mess. I installed it once for a day to see what it's like and no, it's just not for me. So I know it's not easy to find loyal and understanding men like him.
If you've watched heated rivalry, he's very much like Shane. When I was watching the show, the way he stands and talks and everything else, it reminded me so much of him.