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**TL;DR;** : Every family meeting I have they always end up talking badly about my fiance. Mind you that hes not attending those family meetings because its currently a long distance relationship so its pretty much behind his back. On top of that they also dont know him that well so its only based on assumptions.
A bit of background regarding their relationship: He has met all of them already but the communication between them is always lacking because they dont speak the same language, which means that I need to translate most things to them and vice versa. During the time they met him they always showed support and love towards, they even defended him sometimes when my dad was lashing out of him while being drunk. Yet once hes not there one of them comes up to me and says their ''concerns'', which are only assumptions they make about him based on the little stuff they actually know about him. Those concerns are mostly that hes lazy, he has an attitude, that hes clingy and supposedly aggressive. All of those are not true, hes quite the opposite than that and all of those are always based on one small event or thing he said.
Example: We went out to eat with my uncle and the food took 30 minutes to arrive, the restaurant wasnt busy during that time so thats quite a long wait for sure. Besides that we had a long day and he only ate breakfast so it was like 7 hours without any food. My fiance then asked the waiter how long its taking for them to bring the food, not even in an aggressive tone or anything just as a question. He even apologized to them afterwards because he felt bad and gave them a tip. Apparently that small interaction led my uncle to say that he has an attitude and that he seems aggressive.
My view: I do get that they are probably just watching over me but I do not appreciate them doing it in that way. I dont wanna hear negative things about my fiance every family meeting now and not even in general because as I said its just based on assumptions.
And yes I know the advice of talking to them about it but thats not an option. I sadly grew up in an household where its normalized not to talk about your problems because no one is understanding towards them either way. I already tried talking to them about it but it ended up nowhere because they are not willing to understand my point of view.
What other solution is there tho? And should I tell my partner about it or rather keep it to myself?