u/IllyriaCervarro

I personally cannot stand when they start barking outside and I typically react as quickly as I can to get them to stop/come inside. But this can cause me a lot of stress if I’m in the middle of something else where I may not be able to get them immediately. If I’m changing a diaper, bathing a kid or cooking I can’t always just drop that to get the dogs. It’s even stressful when I CAN just drop something and react right away because I really hate the barking.

Ultimately I’ve learned I’m not really a dog person and probably won’t get dogs again - but I love these guys and they’re family so I’m not going to get rid of them just because I can’t stand barking.

Most of our neighbors have dogs. And they don’t all immediately go get their dogs when they’re barking. I mean some of them leave their dogs barking for WAY too long but mostly the dogs bark for several minutes longer than I would allow mine to before I intervened.

So what I’m wondering is - am I a crazy person for trying to get my dogs as soon as they bark? Not like a single bark makes me come running but continued barking. Beyond hating the barking I feel like it’s super rude to leave them out there for other people to hear. But my husband says ‘dogs bark sometimes’ and I can’t help but feel like he has a point (he does go and get them right away also but he says that to try and help me feel less stressed about it when I get in a tizz). Do other people just kind of accept that dogs bark at stuff? I’ve never owned dogs before so I honestly don’t really know what the etiquette is and am curious how others handle their pups making a racket.

My MIL loves this stuff and has been sad ever since they discontinued it in their tins - I’ve googled some chocolate rose teas but would love some recommendations on anything people have found out there that’s similar that they’ve personally tried.

I’m having a scheduled c-section with my second child 5 days before Mother’s Day this year and it really seems to be throwing my whole extended family off in a way that’s making me laugh.

I will be 5 DAYS - just 5 out from surgery on Mother’s Day and I have multiple people trying to suggest to me ways to make different types of plans work. Like folks I might still be in the hospital if there are complications - I’m not planning shit.

No I do not need a babysitter for my 5 day old baby to take my MIL out to eat, no I am not going to brunch 5 days post surgery for my mom. I do not have the ability to ‘pick another day to celebrate if Sunday doesn’t work’ at this juncture.

If I am home I am sitting on my bed or couch focusing on recovery and not exposing my new baby to a bunch of germs. No I am not entertaining people over my place with a meal prepared by my husband ‘because it might be easier’. The most adventurous cooking I plan to do is have my husband make me waffles, eggs and bacon for breakfast - woohoo!

It all comes from a good place of trying to take things off my plate while also making sure the grandmas get celebrated and I am included so I’m not mad or anything - and the suggestions are coming from people who either never had kids or had them so long ago they clearly don’t remember what it was like 5 days later but man it’s really giving me a chuckle.

My first was born in January around no holidays so people trying to make solid plans for things with me so shortly after is a new experience and I’m just sat here like what do they think this is? 😂

My husband’s job is no longer guaranteed when he comes back.

It’s a national company so I have no doubt they’d not officially ‘fire’ him while on leave. They’ll pay him for the duration of our state protected leave and if anything let him go right after.

But the location he’s working at is drastically changing formats. And that format requires everyone reapply for their jobs and other employees of the company can apply for jobs at the new format too. It’s sort of like a premier location now so certain people who are currently there wouldn’t be taken on while high performers from other locations would be. Folks who don’t make it in get moved to other locations or given severance.

He’ll apply for it for sure. He’s got a good reputation, is well liked and has been a high performing manager for a long time. But it’s no guarantee. And the application period begins while he’s on leave when he literally saved up his PTO in order to take a longer time off with us this time… which he probably won’t feel comfortable doing now given the unknowns of the situation.

So he’ll either get promoted or fired when we were planning on having extra time together welcoming our second child.