u/Ilo20

i was dating this boy for a year, on the fifthmonth together he took my virg!nity, we were both 17 at the time, 7 month's after we had our 1 year anniversary, i bought a hamper, calvin klein boxers, choclate, candy and a hand written love letter for him. he was telling me days before it was a surprise and he couldn't hint to me what he was getting me.. once i gave him the gift he lied and said the gift was coming, i ofcourse trusted him! and just assumed he ordered something and it delayed because why would i suspect he's lying...? the following week he gave me a valentine's gift, i didn't give him a Val's gift since he did not give me anything for our anniversary... i confronted him which he kept on taking it as a joke! i had planned to break up with him, and the day we were supposed to meet to talk he bailed on me, with the excuse that his mom worked late he had to meet her and walk her home, a full grown woman with 3 kids... okay. and he procedeed to leave me via text! i had given him the respect and dignity and wanted to leave him face to face... after a month i came to find out he was telling his friends and some friends of mine we had broken up, even when i posted him my so called friends never told me until he took everything off me, days before he took my virginity he was talking bad about me to a "friend" of mine who didn't even bother to tell me, the following months i kept on posting him NONE of my friends had the heart to tell ask me "he said you're broken up, why are you stll posting him?" if the people i was surrounded with loved me enough i don't think i would have lost my virgintiy to someone who hated me yet was so good at faking to love me... to this day i don't understand why take the gifts i had for you, not give me a single gift and break up with me and start making up lies about me... not only he ruined me he also ruined my reputation to people who we were close with, when i confronted him he did not apologise he even said "i get it why it seemed like i was using you but i wasn't" and he even shared he wouldn't want his younger sister to deal with a guy like him. was i blind? was i stupid? how did i not notice the signs he didn't love me beforehand?