Recurring BV & Yeast Infection
I’m not even sure why I’m writing this I guess just to vent. I have been dating this guy from my childhood and we are long distance so I don’t really see him often but when I do we have unprotected sex and I allow him to finish inside me. The problem is I keep getting either BV or a yeast infection or both and it’s really ruining my self image and making me feel abnormal and or like I’m doing something wrong. I was in a long term relationship with a female before him so he is the first guy I’ve been with in more than a decade. I started having symptoms a few days after the first time we had sex and I figured that maybe since it had been a while since I’ve had penetrative sex with a male I was just irritated but when I went to urgent care and got tested for BV, Yeast infection & STIs, the BV & YI came back positive, no STI.
I took metronidazole pills for the BV which did treat it but the YI either wasn’t going away or hadn’t completely cleared. He wanted to see me again but I kept putting off because I wasn’t able to clear the infection in the usual 7-10 day time frame. I was so embarrassed to tell him but eventually I did and he took it well and didn’t make me feel bad about it, but we had sex again recently and I’m noticing a fishy odor and vaginal dryness. I can’t even tell if I really have BV or not because I’ve been hyper focused on every smell and sensation down there but because of the smell I am assuming the BV is back and that the cycle will begin again. I’m just tired of not having a normal sex life with a guy and it’s a little traumatic for me because the very first time I had unprotected sex with a male I got an STI and a yeast infection and he blamed me for it all. It was just a very stressful time in my life since I had no one I could confide in about it and I went through it alone and I’m feeling the same way now that I did before.
Im just confused because I never had this bad of a problem before especially with my ex female partner. We would do a lot of things and even use toys and I never had any infection. I even used to wash with scented soaps before I really understood how to properly care for my vagina and never had an issue so I don’t think I’m just sensitive or prone to it.
We want to see each other again but I’m just feeling very icky and stressed about constantly having to put off seeing him and even telling him about this and I’m worried he’ll get tired of it as much as I am. I’m not sure what to do now because I really don’t want to take antibiotics again. I have boric acid suppositories which helped the YI last time but I don’t even know if it will actually treat the BV. I’m just tired.