AITAH for telling my bsf she can’t bring her baby to my bday?
I (19f) am throwing a big bday party. We will be renting out an Airbnb and there will be a little bit of everything. I thought it was implied that my best friend (19f) would be able to find childcare and that we wouldn’t have an issue. But to double check I sent her a message a month in advance letting her know that she should find someone. Mind you she is a single mother who is “co-parenting” but never once has the baby daddy done nothing to help her out. She said “she wouldn’t make it” and I asked her if there was literally ANYONE that could watch her since I know her sister has watched her before. I was talking to my other friend and she told me I was in the wrong for telling her this, now I need to know if I am the Asshole for asking her to do this.
Edit: Thank you for the comments just a few things. Many of you are asking about the “big party” that was a poor choice of words from my part. The party is divided in 2 the dinner portion of it which will be a big group of like 20+ people. Then the “after party” will be at the Airbnb with only the registered people that have paid and agreed to come to the Airbnb. That will only be a few people. Now people are telling me I am the AH for pressuring my friend into leaving her baby. I understand that our lives are very different. Both me and my other friend have been supportive through everything she had to go through. There is obviously a lot of context that I don’t feel comfortable sharing because at the end of the day it’s not my life but hers. The baby is great and she has been at other small functions that our small group has hosted. She doesn’t cry much and she loves parties. The only reason I asked her to find a care taker is because it is a baby in a rented Airbnb and if god forbid something wrong was to happen we don’t want the baby to be involved. I understand if she can’t make it and I’m not throwing a tantrum, she is my best friend and I know she would be there is she could, her birthday is the day right after mine as well and this would be her bday weekend as well. Anyways thank you all for the feed back have a great day.