How to help when we have sex be more enjoyable? (F20) (M21)
I’m not exactly sure where to start with this but I’ll give it my best. Me and my boyfriend have been together going on 3 years now, when we first got together, the “honeymoon” (his words not mine) phase ran its course to where we’d be trying to get in quickies before having to go somewhere. He’s my first with everything, we have been able to talk about different things we want to try, we have toys, we’ve tried all kinds of things but at this point it feels like everytime we have sex it’s not, passionate? Unless we’re both dying to rip each other apart? It’s very… calculated? I’m not even very sure how to bring this up to him and sex just makes me nervous, it could also just be my fault since I am a very nervous person who doesn’t like to touch anyone (somewhat including my boyfriend) and I feel that makes it to where I’m not comfortable/don’t understand the greatest times to just give him a little rub over the pants. Another example would be that I wanted to flash him while on the freeway but I couldn’t find the courage to do it. I guess my ending of this is how do I ignite the passion and get more comfortable touching my boyfriend 😭 TYIA