Confused on if I was assaulted or not
This happened two years ago so we were both pretty young adults at the time . I went on a date with this guy and we went for drinks he came such a long way to see me so I stayed at the hotel with him we had consensual sex that night but I woke up in the morning to him touching me and trying to put his fingers in me while rubbing me , I kinda froze up and clenched my thighs together (he thought I was still sleeping and I woke up to this happening and kept pretending to be asleep) I eventually pretended to stretch and knock over a glass on the bedside table so it would stop then he did stop when I said no. the thing that confuses me about it is the fact he was also aware I’m into bdsm stuff including somno in theory but have never done it . But I’d always said if anything like that happened id need to really trust someone and have consent spoke about the night before or indicated but none of that happened. I don’t know if he thought I’d like it and didn’t mean any harm and just forgot about what id said around it but I’d also have thought it’s a given you wouldn’t do that to someone the very first time you’ve met . I’ve always been confused about if it’s assault if it’s something I think I’d like in theory but with a partner I trust not someone I’d just met but maybe he got the wrong idea?
when he found out I’d been asking people about the whole situation he got really mad and blew up on me asking why I’m telling people he assaulted me but I never said he did it I was just so confused on what actually happened so asking people.