Like the title says. It’s getting ruined. We’re both 30 and I said multiple times that I dont mind him jerking of, but could he lay down the porn. He has been lying about his porn usage for plus 10 years, and I’ve tried to be understanding. If I say something he will just say to me at I make him feel bad for doing it. I keep saying Im completely fine with that part, but if he could use pictures of me or something like that. I tried to give him space to figure it out himself after I’ve tried several times to help, but nothing changes. And now we can’t have sex anymore like we used to. No matter how good it feels for him, and even though he says it’s great, he can’t come anymore without it hurting both of us. And the foreplay, gone. And I feel like I’m giving up. I wanna have so much sex, but he don’t believe me because we started to have less and less. And when I try to explain what I’m experiencing, he’s only focused on that I’m making him feel bad… I’m not even mentioning the porn or the jerking of when we talk half the time. Some times I just wanna express I also misses sex.
Why do some men, or my man specifically, complain about the amount of sex he gets, but won’t do shit about it himself? And why would he rather give up and jerk of to shitty online fake mourning, then having sex for real. What would be your advice for me? I love this man. But I’m so scared it’s too late.
Btw we have a long history together. Been with each other since the teenage years. But I feel lost, unloved, unsexy, disrespected and taken for granted… of course there’s some more stuff than the porn and so on. But with all of it together and with this on top, I’m scared. So so scared.