I got engaged last spring and gave out save the dates in October for my fall 2026 wedding. (In retrospect I should have waited longer before giving out save the dates to everyone). I had two friends I’d met through work and knew for about a year. (I do not work with them on a daily basis. We only hired in together.) I gave them save the dates and they were so happy they could cry. Well it’s been 6 months since then and not once has either one of them reached out to me to make plans or chat. I’ve invited them both to a couple events (holiday party and Friendsgiving) and each one attended one of the events.
I stopped reaching out at some point because I felt the relationship was really unreciprocated. It hurt a bit because one of them constantly kept cancelling on me, and I actually really liked her. I finally accepted the friendship was pretty much not worth trying for and gave up.
Well I bumped into the one that kept cancelling on me a few weeks back and she kept raving about how excited she was for my wedding and how she was totally going to cry. I was dumbfounded - like girl you haven’t made any effort to talk to me. And I mentioned that to her. And she just laughed it off and said she had been busy. We live 10 min apart and could even just grab lunch together at work, so not sure that’s a great excuse. She then told me she needed to invite me to her birthday celebration (tomorrow) but never followed up with info.
So the question is: is it wrong of me to not give these people an invitation? It feels like a waste of money and effort for people who’ve made no effort back.