u/Imaginary-Hair2645

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I’m a 31M. I’ve been working for a corporation for 9 years. My 20s were sacrificed to college and paying off all my debt. Now that I’m in my 30s, I feel like I’m finally starting to bloom as a person. Unfortunately, corporate America does not provide anything close to sufficient work/life balance.

I currently get 3 weeks of vacation out of 52 weeks in a year. Upon my 10 year anniversary that will become 4 weeks. That doesn’t sound awful on the surface, but it’s really not much. If I want to visit my family and friends around the country and actually get time to disconnect (a full week or 2 off, not just a 3 day weekend), I run out of PTO very quickly. And oh yeah, we don’t get sick days.

Throughout the year I have to be extremely conscientious about how I use my 15 days. Work through sickness so I can attend my best friend’s bachelor party and wedding, go on a trip with my friends, spend time with my parents, etc. If given the choice, I’d gladly sacrifice 20% of my salary for an extra 9 weeks or so off.

I still have some fun during the year, but like 92% of my weeks are working 5 days a week. That’s fucking ridiculous when you really think about it. It makes me want to consider quitting the corporate life in a few years when I’m more financially comfortable and getting a part time job that includes insurance. Anything to give me extra free time from week to week.

TLDR; the lack of time off in the US isn’t talked about enough. It’s really bad.

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u/Imaginary-Hair2645 — 18 days ago

I’m a 30M, and admittedly a bit of a late bloomer. I was always shy in high school and college, and also went to an extremely challenging, rigorous engineering school. My social opportunities and experiences were not nearly as good as they could have been if I had chosen a different environment to spend those crucial 4 years of my life.

Lately I’ve been on a roll socially. Making friends, attending weddings, expanding my network. Gaining confidence because a lot of people enjoy my company. I love spending time with my guy friends and their wives/fiancees/girlfriends, even if I’m the 15th wheel. Depending on who I’m next to I may end up talking with the girls more than the guys some nights.

Life is great and I really have nothing to complain about, but I would really love to meet someone someday. I’m the only single person in my circle and sometimes it makes me feel like I don’t have “it”, whatever that may be.

Recently I beat my friends to a restaurant so I pushed two long tables together to make room for the 11 of us and I overheard one of the girls looking at me from afar and saying “(my name) is so cute”. It made me feel good.

TLDR; it can be really hard to be patient. I’m a type A person and want to do things with people I love as much as possible. But I feel like I need to get very lucky if I’m ever going to meet the right person for me who is available and thinks I’m attractive.

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u/Imaginary-Hair2645 — 20 days ago