got my diagnosis recently. bleeding for 2 months straight. accused of lying for assistance. why can’t period products be free?
Im sorry but I can’t stop crying. I don’t want to name them, but there’s Organization that seems awesome— you post an amazon wishlist for period products if you’re struggling, and members of the community step up and help others who need the help.
They basically told me “You’re a liar. You spent money on something else recently. You need to do better, you are a bad person for taking resources from those that need it.” The last thing I want to do is make myself sound like a victim. I promise you I would never lie and take away resources from those that need it! And even if someone were to go through the trouble of applying for a resource for $10 tampons — don’t you think they might actually be in need?! If they really needed it, I would have sent them a screenshot of my bank account. I feel such a strong mix of anger, sadness, and also disappointment.
I am dealing with terrible depression and a recent diagnosis of PCOS, multiple ovarian cysts and fibroids. I have been nonstop bleeding for two months. I constantly am crying from the pain. You women know how expensive bleeding that much is btw lol. I hate being a woman. This is more a vent about being denied resources when I am struggling just as much as everyone else utilizing this service.. and being accused of lying. I don’t know why this is effecting me so much. WHY CANT PERIOD PRODUCTS BE FREE?
It was extremely hard for me to be able to build up the courage to ask for help. I basically messaged the organization, and asked if I would be able to participate even though i sn a new member ( I showed proof of my old accounts being deactivated due to taking a break from social media). I explained how I am going through a hard time financially, have been bleeding for months nonstop, and how i’ve been having to use toilet paper and free period products from nearby businesses (which I am so grateful for, but if any of you have PCOS or an allergy to certain materials you know that certain products will only make your symptoms flare up due to allergies.. so my only option has been to free bleed which has ruined all my underwear and is just uncomfortable. I know it’s not the end of the world.. but it can start to hurt and make me feel prone to UTIs ). I simply wanted to know if I would be able to ask for help despite being new, and I would’ve completely understood if they said no. I totally get that it could be unfair.
Instead, they first said it would be unfair to those that actually follow rules (I understand that.. but it sounded passive aggressive. I was never trying to evade rules, just see if they would understand a situation.) they brought up how I recently posted about purchasing LPS (which are a toy) and said I need to do better and that I am permanently banned from asking for help.
I feel SO much shame.. and for what? They didn’t even give me a chance to explain. The only reason I was able to spend any money on those toys is because I had both a balance sitting in an app where you can buy items from China (it is called Superbuy). I had $30 in the account from a year ago, and you’re not able to take the money back out after putting it in. I also posted about how I was able to score a rare item for a cheap price through somebody in my town that owns a thrift store. What they didnt read from the post and looked over is that that happened 6+ months ago. I simply posted about it as i made this account solely for connecting with that fandoms community.
I was also silently hoping somebody would step up and ask to purchase the collectibles as well haha, but i didn’t wanna be labeled as a reseller or scalper. I have been looking forward to utilizing this service for a week now— I really hope im not overreacting. But knowing that i have to go through more of the uncomfortable bleeding is really getting to me. I am never usually this sensitive.. but being accused of lying for $10 tampons has made me feel AWFUL. Also please note i am not posting this for someone to offer to buy me anything. I will figure it out on my own! I genuinely just need to get this off my chest. it’s less about the product itself because i guess i can live just using the toilet paper method lol.. have any of you guys ever been in a similar situation? :/