I lowkey need advice because I’ve been overthinking this a lot and I don’t really know what to do anymore.
So basically I had a situation at school where I made a mistake during a group activity. It wasn’t on purpose at all, just something went wrong, and I did take responsibility and apologized.
In my main group (there’s 4 of us), 1 of them is actually okay with me and kind of accepted my apology, but the other 2 haven’t really accepted it. One of them has been pretty rude to me since then and just feels cold, like they don’t really want to talk to me at all anymore. But I totally understand their feelings, I know I did something wrong but that person dont want to listen at all. Not even a chance to explain.
On top of that, there are 2 other friends in a different group (not the same group), and I found out one of them has been talking shit behind my back about me because the one not forgive me is their bestie and they mad at them because they dont talk to them in the first play which for me sound so fake about their "actual" friendship too, and the other just kind of follows along or is distant now. Like they dont try to support me when its start getting hard for me with other group and they also know things happen with me with other group and we are really close. So it feels like I’m getting pushed away from both sides at once.
The hardest part is I still have to see all of them every day at school. In class I sit with the main group, so I can’t avoid it. I just sit there trying to act normal but it feels really awkward because there’s clearly tension and I don’t really know where I stand with them anymore.
I told myself I’d just give it time and wait, because I don’t want to make things worse by forcing it, but it’s been really draining. I do care about them and I don’t want to lose the friendships, but right now it feels like I’m the only one still trying.
I’ve apologized and tried to fix what I did wrong, but it doesn’t really feel like it’s being accepted fully, except for that one person.
So I guess I just don’t know what to do. If you were in my situation, would you keep trying to slowly rebuild things with people who are distant, or would you just give space and move on? And how do you deal with having to see them every day when things feel like this?