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Hi everyone 🤍 I have a question about something quite personal, and I was wondering if anyone has any experience with this.
After my termination, the hospital has said I may be able to have my baby’s remains returned to me. I’m around 12 weeks and I was wondering if anyone at a similar gestation was able to arrange a cremation and have their baby’s ashes placed in a small urn or a piece of memorial jewellery, such as a necklace.
I would really love to have something special to keep with me to remember my baby, but I’m not sure what options are available at this stage of pregnancy.
If anyone has been through something similar and feels comfortable sharing their experience, I would be so grateful. Thank you ❤️

Hi everyone, I’m 18 and this is my first pregnancy. At my 12-week scan, they found that my baby had an NT measurement of 7.5mm, a suspected cystic hygroma behind the neck, thickened and swollen skin caused by fluid, an exomphalos containing bowel, and a two-vessel umbilical cord.
My combined screening results for Down syndrome, Edwards’ syndrome and Patau’s syndrome came back as lower chance, which has left me struggling to understand everything because the ultrasound findings were still so concerning.
The fetal medicine doctors explained that these findings could be associated with a chromosomal abnormality, a heart defect or another genetic or structural problem. We don’t know exactly what is causing everything.
After speaking with the specialists, we’ve made the heartbreaking decision to have a termination for medical reasons. My procedure is on Tuesday, and I’m absolutely terrified. I keep questioning whether I’m making the right decision, and I’m finding it so hard to process that this is happening to my baby.
I’m posting here because I’d really like to hear from anyone who has had similar scan findings or understands what it’s like to receive this kind of news. I’m feeling very alone at the moment and just need somewhere to talk about it. 💔🤍