Husband lost his job and wants a divorce in the same week
Anyone in our close circle would call us relationship goals. We met in high school long distance and he moved to the states to marry me. Our five year wedding anniversary is next week. I’ve been sick with the flu and staying in bed so much. He got furloughed on monday. Said he wants a divorce yesterday. We’re both young, I’m only 27 and hes the only partner I’ve ever known. I genuinely can’t fathom my life without him. I can’t help but think all the shit going on in our life right now is making him rush into something that he doesn’t fully want. I get intrusive thoughts like he’s just gonna walk out and say “sike”. We don’t have kids but we have two cats and a dog we treat like children and every time I look at them I think about what their life is gonna be like without him and its heartbreaking. I have physical limitations and I don’t know how I’m gonna pick up the daily walks that my husband gives my high energy dog.
His reason for the divorce is him thinking we’re not compatible. I have mental health issues that make me struggle to complete household chores and generally struggle with ambition in life. I’ve been working on it with medication and psychiatric help but he thinks I’ll never reach the level he needs in a partner. He also has some sexual preferences that I’ve always communicated are outside my boundaries and he’s decided its a deal breaker that I can’t participate in them with him. I feel so blindsided.
On top of being heartbroken I don’t know how I’m gonna survive without financial support. I have a job but I make minimum wage and its not enough to support our animals or pay rent anywhere. I’m going to stay with my mom today but I’m terrified I’ll just live there forever now.