Am I Overreacting? Husband being extremely rude and verbally aggressive at night over diaper leaks.
We cosleep with our 16 month old. In the past we have had a problem with her diaper leaking. When this happens I will get up and change her. Occasionally I will wake him up to watch her while I find clothing if she is rolling around to make sure she doesn’t roll off the bed.
However, when this happens he goes completely crazy. He starts saying really mean and nasty things towards me that are so rude and ultimately he doesn’t like being woken up because I have used the ‘wrong’ diaper on our child.
I feel that I cannot control whether the diaper leaks or not. I’ve done my best to ensure it doesn’t. I understand that being woken up from your sleep is unpleasant but I am being blamed completely for her diaper leak when I feel it is completely out of my control.
He insists that I am to blame because I put the wrong diaper on.
Sorry this sounds minor but it’s completely destroying me. He has never done a single night shift has he works full time in a high stress job and offered to pay for a night nanny instead so I understand that. But I don’t know what to do now. I can’t take this anymore. This is just one of the things that I cannot seem to see from his perspective so before escalating this a lot further I am trying to get some perspective to see if I am overreacting or not
Aside from this our relationship is decent but I feel I cannot continue if this keeps happening.
EDIT: thank you for the advice everyone, I really appreciate it…. I will figure out how to handle this in the morning. It’s good to be able to read different perspectives on this so thank you. 🙏🙏 (and no my husband isn’t generally like this, just when woken at night)