I (25f) recently got a boyfriend (26) and things have been going pretty well for us. we started dating around 2 months ago and for the most part things have been going pretty well except for the odd thing or two that you can work on. Until today.
We were driving to see my family and I was listening to songs that are about breakup, loving people etc (like what you do) because even if I’m not going through a breakup right there and then I still love the music. I was singing my heart out to song like vampire by Olivia Rodrigo, when he turned the music down. I looked at him like why did you turn it down and he said “I just don’t like you singing about other boys” I was like “wtf?? what are you on abou?” thinking he was joking, he was like “well these songs are about breaking up with boys etc” and I was like “yeah I like this type of music, it’s relatable and great to sing to” and he wa like “yeah but why would you sing about a breakup when you’re not in one??” I was so confused.
i think it might be jealousy but he was being super bitter about it and saying I wasn’t allowed to listen to stuff like that because it made him feel unwanted etc . idk why but he explained more about how he didn’t want me to, and I called him “childish and jealous” I guess that’s a rude thing to say but I was angry but he said that was inconsiderate of his feelings and I was making his feelings feel invalid. I told him that wasn’t how I was trying to make him feel but I don’t understand why he’s so disturbed about that. he said that if it was the other way round he would stop but I said I wouldnt ask him because it’s a SONG and tbh I listen to songs and sing them so loudly even if I don’t relate. he was so pissy about it and we sat in miserable silence for the rest of the way.
further on I asked what was I supposed to listen to because most songs I like are abiut things like sx love breakups etc and he was like “stop trying to make me sound like the bad guy” but I genuinely don’t understand why he’s so threatened??
I feel like I can’t be in the car without some music on and I feel controlled and me &him have completely different music taste but I deal with it we have a thing where whoever is driving gets the choice of music and although I don’t mind listening to his raps about stuff like violence, I feel like I should say to him stop listoning to it because it makes me feel threathened or to listen to even more music that i like just to be petty??
What should i do/say to him??
WIBTAH?