My (22f) mother (40f) was taking my great grandmother (79f) on a vacation to Florida for her birthday this week . A little background to my family my great grandmother has five children and usually it’s always some kind of drama between them as siblings , either two siblings don’t like another set of siblings or two siblings fell out and they picked sides etc . Not too long ago an an altercation happened between by great uncle (B) and my mother since then our family has been extremely divided and they have been turning my great against my mother . Last night my mom was talking to one of my great aunts (D) while booking the Airbnb and she mentioned packing my grandmothers bags for the trip , her my brother and my heads downstairs to my great grandmas room to see if she started packing . Out of no where she turns her nose up at my mom and says she doesn’t want to go very aggressively remind you guys my aunt D is still on the phone with my mom so she start screaming “why ?! Why don’t you want to go ??!” My grandma just kept saying she didn’t want to go my mom says fine and goes upstairs to let the dogs outside . she’s still talking to my great aunt and they’re dumbfounded at this point on where her change of mind came from , my great grandmother then comes upstairs and gets in my moms face and says “Florida ? For my birthday ? I’m.not.going” my mom said that’s absolutely fine you don’t have to go you can stay . She marches back into her room and calls my other great aunt (T) and says “yeah I told (my mom) I’m not going” my mom goes into her room and asks again why she (my great grandmother) didn’t want to go but to my aunt T she (aunt T) immediately starts saying she has no idea what’s going on or what’s happening but we aren’t dumb and they’ve done things like this before several times with manipulating my grandma to go against my mom even though she’s my grandmas caretaker . So at this point my mom is completely done and doesn’t want my grandma to go on the trip meanwhile my aunt T and uncle B is calling my granny (my moms mom) telling her what happened and throwing each other under the bus on who influenced my grandma not to go now my granny is irate and so is my cousin (aunt T’s daughter) calling my great grandma to fuss at her and aunt T about what she did and because they both threw each other under the bus my uncle B and aunt T are telling my grandma to go and calling my mom to tell her to still take her but my mom is standing firm on not wanting to her to go .
My mom told me to ask Reddit if she WBTA if she stood firm and didn’t take my grandma on the trip . They’re saying she’s gonna regret not letting it go because my grandma is old and might die at any time but my mom has been seriously mentally suffering since being her caretaker not only with my great grandma but with my great aunts and uncle influencing her to be mean as well . She says if you guys says let it go she will suck it up but if you guys say she isn’t crazy she’s holding her boundary .
This is my first Reddit post ever so I’ll answer questions/ make edits as detailed as I can my mom leaves Thursday so… we kinda need urgent help lol .