Looking for founding partners: Let's launch a safe, zero-pressure dating & meetup circle for Modesto locals with anxiety, depression, or ADHD.
Hi r/modesto,
I’m a local, and I’m reaching out today because I want to help tackle a massive problem in our community: the isolation epidemic.
Modern dating apps like Tinder and Hinge focus so much on polished perfection. For those of us living with clinical depression, social anxiety, ADHD, bipolar disorder, or neurodivergence, trying to find connection can feel incredibly high-pressure. We often feel like we have to hide our struggles on a first date out of fear of judgment.
That’s why I want to launch a new, peer-led community project called Imbalanced Hearts.
My goal is to host low-pressure, structured community mixers and speed-dating events right here in town where people can be 100% authentic from minute one. To keep it a completely safe and anxiety-free space, I want to build it around a few strict rules:
🔴 Color-Coded Boundaries: Guests get a Green, Yellow, or Red wristband to instantly signal how much they feel like sharing that day.
🤐 Zero Rejection: We use a "Silent Match" scorecard system. Nobody trades numbers face-to-face, protecting everyone's emotional safety.
🔒 Strict Privacy: A zero-tolerance policy for gossip or sharing members' details outside the circle.
How you can help:
I eventually want to grow this into a formal, free community resource or official nonprofit, but I am not asking for any money. Right now, I am just looking for passionate people to help me build the foundation.
I would love to connect with local mental health advocates, licensed counselors, or quiet local venue owners who might want to volunteer advice or safe spaces to help launch our very first event.
If you are an individual looking for a community like this, a professional who wants to advise, or just someone who believes in the mission, please drop a comment below or send me a chat message. Let’s build a safer, kinder dating culture in Modesto.I Thought of basically everything so if you have any questions, feel free to reach out to me, let’s change the world one community at a time.