AITA for considering dropping my bridesmaid (32F) after we’ve completely drifted apart since she had a baby?
I (28F) am struggling with whether I should keep one of my original bridesmaids, Jess (32F), in my bridal party.
We were really close from 2024–2025. We worked together every day, worked out together, and were each other’s main support system. Then life happened. Over the past year we’ve only hung out maybe twice, we barely text, and phone calls almost never happen. As far as I know there’s no bad blood at all — she had a baby and is deep in the newborn/new mom phase. Family is really important to me, so I’ve been genuinely happy for her and trying to be understanding.
Our original wedding was supposed to be in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, but it got canceled after the cartel bombing in the area. We’ve since moved the date and location to a vineyard in California (about a year out now).
The issue is we basically don’t talk anymore. I’ve reached out multiple times to invite her to hang out and check in, but she rarely responds or calls back. I completely get that being a new mom is exhausting and all-consuming, so I’ve been trying hard to give her grace.
At this point though, it feels weird keeping someone in my bridal party who isn’t really in my life anymore. Would I be a jerk if I gently let her go, or should I keep her out of loyalty to our old friendship and the original plans?
Any advice is appreciated.