For this, I feel like a little bit of background info is needed, my last relationship before this of 2 1/2 years ended due to my partner, saying that I was not enough emotionally physically or when I was enough, I was too much, sometimes I question whether or not thats true, but moving forward to now 3 years later) me and my current boyfriend have been together since February, and I just seem to have consistent problems with trusting that he’s not doing anything behind my back, I’m given constant reassurance, and a large part of me knows that I should trust him, and I do, but they’re just moments I get into my head and feel like im being too much, my last partner cheated consistently throughout our relationship, and I was willing to stick around through all of that, and now I feel like there’s this barrier I put up to protect myself, and now it gets in the way of be fully trusting him. Every time I get in my head and discuss how I’m feeling or thinking with him. He’s always super supportive and understanding and it makes me feel worse because he’s able to be there for me, but i still panic, I started behavioral therapy to start to work through these feelings and hopefully not be like this, but obviously that will take time which he understands, and is willing to stick around for that growth, I just wanna be able to bring the best version of myself to him. Even if I know it’s not possible all the time.
So I guess the question I’m getting to with this is; is there any coping mechanisms or things I can do to not continue to spiral when I’m overthinking things? I don’t want this to be how he sees me and he tells me it’s not. But I just don’t wanna create problems that don’t exist. And it feels like that’s what I do; I overthink every given situation and its not fair to him, is there anything i even can do to help this? I’m aware that therapy was a big Step and will help long-term; but I feel like I just need something that can help me push through when I’m in my head too much.