Look; Ben can be an arrogant ass in the galley. He can certainly be a jerk. But... at the end of the day, he strives for greatness in his food, and he's been through a lot personally; yeah, betrayals, abandonment etc. Maybe some is his fault, maybe not. And yeah, he is emotionally a wreck and in some ways immature (thinking he should be with a 22 year old; listening to stupid comments about Joao and Jenna in the hot tub...) He's damaged and trying to find his path (and self-pity ain't the place, Ben!)
But let's cut the guy some slack. He's been through roller coasters, some and some not of his own making. I love to see him on the show, but BD is not where he needs to be at this point... I believe inside he's got goodness; ya gotta feel for the guy and just want him to find a happy place.
(edited for spelling stupidity)