AITA For Ruining Mother’s day
I (15F) and my brother (19M) got in a recent complication with our mother last week on mother’s day. My mom is current giving me and my brother the silent treatment like she usually does when she gets mad.
A few days before mother’s day i realized it was coming up because for the past week ive been focused on AP exams and catching up on homework, I ask my dad and brother what we’re doing and they chose a certain restaurant or at least I was under the impression of. I didn’t give much input on the plans and the plans were kinda just floating.
A day before mother’s day I wanted to make something for her so I made a polar bear toothbrush holder because her toothbrush just lays on the sink. The entire period before mother’s day my brother isn’t really communicating but I’m not really talking to him partially due to being busy ( our relationship isn’t great).Also my brother doesn’t go to school or have a job he goes late at night with his friends and comes home late almost every day so he isn’t busy.
I also wrote in the card my brother bought, he also got her a plant since she likes them. He also got her a $100 visa gift card (with money my dad gave him for it) On mother’s day I woke up at 8 and my mom already was eating breakfast so I didnt think to make her (looking back on it i should’ve made her breakfast). But me and my mom were under the impression we were leaving the house at 12-1pm since my dad said the supposed restaurant was 15 mins away. I knocked on my brothers door at 11am and he was still asleep.
So i took a shower and my brother got mad i was taking a long time. I open the door at their arguing, my brother said that the restaurant he planned on going to (for context HE SWITCHED THE PLACE LAST SECOND and yelled at me for not asking where we’re going and said i wasn’t asking him but you are the one who changed the place without telling me or my dad.) Apparnetly the place my brother chose was a BRUNCH CAFE which closes at 3pm and is 45 minutes away. it’s 1pm. my brother got up at 12.
He started blaming it on me saying i didn’t know how to use my phone because apparently he sent the location of the cafe AT 10:30PM in a gc with me my dad and him!! without context. I wasn’t even aware of this, and thought he sent his current location ( he left to go with friends the dad before mother’s day and my dad was mad because he didn’t know where he went).
My mom got extremely upset and said the whole thing was half-ass planned, which i won’t lie it was. And that we put no effort. Later in the day my brother gave the card and the plant. She threw them in the trash. I put the polar bear when it was finished drying in the bathroom and she put it on a coffee table.
I apologized to her on text and she stayed mad. She has been ignoring us for 5 days. She also threw frozen food from the trash that she made for my brother. Sorry if the post is confusing. Also my dad has been asking me to apologize but I refuse too because she always gives silent treatments since I was 8 and I’m honestly sick of it. so aita?..