Kandi Trading etiquette...?
new raver here. i'm still learning things about raves but there's been a confusing moment since i've attended my first rave and it clung to me for awhile. i am autistic so i really can't decipher social cues and rules.
so i've only been taught the basic of Kandi Trading, just the PLUR gesture. and not like the expectations.
there was a guy going crazy amongst the crowd and i thought he was so cool for that. i saw that he had Kandi so i wanted to trade with him.
i caught him resting and greeted him. i asked if he wanted to trade and agreed. we did the gesture and then i've slid my only Kandi to him and he broke off and we were done there. then i was left confused because i didn't get a Kandi in return, and reminded him it was a trade. he told me to not expect anything and walked away.
the whole interaction left a bad taste and kinda soured the rest of the experience. and this leads to my questions:
– am i supposed to explicitly ask first with someone if they wanted to trade instead of just approaching / initiating?
– am i really supposed to not expect anything in return? if that was the case, then why is it called trading??