How to stop obsessing over people?
I have done formal DBT with my therapist and am familiar with the skills and I try to practice many of them (radical acceptance, TIPP skills, DEAR MAN ect). However, I still really struggle with reducing obsessions over friends.
For example, I have a very volatile close friend and sometimes we are very close and other times we are more distant and things are weird. In these “off” times I find myself constantly checking their location, thinking about them nonstop, going over our conversations in my head.
I am engaged in lots of distraction as well (studying, vigorous long workouts…) and I find my mind just constantly drifts back to this person and I nonstop ruminate. Its very distracting and leaves me so upset and hurt too.
Looking for any strategies that have worked for other people so that they can function in day to day life without being so burdened. :(