u/ImmediatePomelo5333

Assalamu Alaikum,

I’m posting here with serious intentions for marriage, In Shaa Allah.

About Me

Male, 28
British Pakistani
Born and raised in the UK
Sunni Muslim
Single (never married)
Working at the airport
Height: 5’8”
I try my best to pray five times a day and improve myself in deen. Alhamdulillah, I do not smoke, drink, or vape.

I enjoy watching football and cricket, travelling, spending time with family and friends, and learning about different cultures. Alhamdulillah, I’ve been blessed to perform Umrah three times and hope to go again with my future wife. I also hope we can perform Hajj together one day, In Shaa Allah.
I’d describe myself as loyal, honest, caring, and family oriented. I’m looking to build a peaceful, loving, and supportive marriage based on trust, respect, and Islamic values.

What I’m Looking For

Pakistani background
Based in the UK
Age 23–32
Kind, respectful, and family oriented
Someone who prays or is trying to improve in her deen. A supportive partner to grow together with through both good and difficult times
If interested, feel free to message me. Please keep things respectful and halal. JazakAllah Khair.

As-salamu alaykum, I’m not really sure where to start, but I’ve been speaking to a girl I met at the airport nearly a year ago. She asked me for my number. We’ve been in each other’s lives since then. I planned our first date in August, which was actually the first date I’ve ever been on, and it went well. Since then, we’ve stayed in constant contact through calls, messages, and video calls. This is the longest I’ve ever spoken to a girl.
My family is concerned that she might be wasting my time. For the first 6 months ish, I didn’t spend any money on her, but recently I’ve started buying her gifts. We are serious about each other, and I enjoy spoiling her because I see her as my future wife. However, my mum worries that she could be using me for money and just passing time. I understand the point that maybe I should wait until marriage before spending on her, but my intentions have been clear from the beginning I want to make this halal and involve our families.

She told my grandmother last year that she wants to finish her studies and start her career before thinking about marriage. She also mentioned that I was too fast and quick and told my family about us. At the same time, my family is pressuring me to ask her to tell her family about us now.

On top of that, I’ve had people tell me I won’t find a good wife in the UK because I’m “too innocent,” and that girls here might take advantage of me. They suggest I should look for a wife in Pakistan instead.

I’ve been making dua that if she isn’t sincere, WAllahi Allah reveals her true intentions to me. I haven’t prayed Tahajjud in a while, but I feel like I need to start again to find some peace. I also see a lot of posts about quick divorces, which makes me worry, but I just hope things work out for the best.