“53 F struggling after 5-year relationship with 52M affected by outside influence”
Me and my partner were together for 5 yrs, we had a beautiful memory together, until we were introduced to a church (his best introduced him to a local church where we met this couple, she being a Colombian and he is Indian Since the beginning I felt something odd with the woman, very seductive energy and her husband was very charming too , My partner was mesmerized with them already and we all started to have lunches together after church , It was odd to me that she would lay on the ground , seductively when we are all sitting together, and her husband did not seem to be bothered about it at all.
Soon I thought she was just attention seeking and just let it go but my partner was getting into it more and more as their boy go to the same school. Then eventually my partner invited them to their house which is very large and beautiful house. Suddenly I saw that she would need attention from my partner and then before us she will French kiss her husband and then flirt with my partner all this looked very odd to me, and I let it go ad I thought she is a just a attention seeking woman. She came to me saying she needed help with psychology, and I ignored her as she has a tendency to manipulate and use everyone. Things went on and ny partners parents came. He is very much enmeshed with the mom and mom wanted him all by herself, any how I brought it before him many times sometimes he understood and sometimes ignored it. I saw that he became their face book friends started liking all husbands' pictures as well some of hers, I expressed my concern that I don't like that then he stopped, things went on like this and i tool myself off the equation as she always wanted attention which really bothered me , but since he wanted to build a relationship for kids , I let it go ,
Things went on moving when I lost my dad in April of 2024, and was going through lot of grief, its at this time this woman entered into his life as a support person from church and then slowly hooking him for emotional dependency knowing we were in a relationship and she being married , her husband would invite us for lunches and slowly suttllely he was being a different person , Ishe entered when i was away grieving my dad and then actively was destroying our relationship her husband was facilitating the hunt ( predatory unit) , This woman is a dark tetrad and was jealous of our relationship right from the beginning , any how ny the time I came back , he was little distant , I focused on my grieving , we used to travel together which reduced and he started also travelling solo , Bothof them worked as the tag team to get him under influence to take over the property etc, any how he was deeply manipulated and I think she convinced him Iam the controlling person and she is the rescuer ( I think she gave him and escape /fantasy ) secret channel that happened with grooming , when he came back from one of those trips , he lied to me to attend her birthday party , at that time I knew that hook was deep, whenever i confronted him he gaslighted me , lastly he went to India to meet his parents and came with a diagnosis of 95% LAD blockage of the heart that required Immediate CABG surgery. I knew she was abusing him as well, she love bombed and created the hook then there was abuse, I am a medical(mandatory) provider and I reported her and her husband to the church, pastor and his wife and well as APS as I was afraid that they were after his property . . I came out of the situation and completely no contact with my aprtner for 3 months , I alsi let his best freinds know what was happening . I was not there for his surgery as well as I was afriad they would use me and make me the enemy .
I do miss my parter a lot but he needs to to come out of the hooks of and her husband are there any hoped for him and our relationship?