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My wife and I have been married 3 years and have a one year old daughter. My parents are practicing Muslims, my wife and I are Muslim but not as strict. From the beginning my mom and sister criticized my wife constantly — how she dresses, how she looks, how she should treat me. It caused endless fights between me and my wife early in our marriage and we almost divorced.

When my wife gave birth my mom and sister showed up 30 minutes after and immediately started telling her how to feed our daughter. I got angry and asked them to leave. They didn't come around for 2 weeks.

When I tried to reconnect and went to my parents house with my wife and newborn, my mom literally told my wife to leave. I walked out with my wife and didn't go back for a month.

I decided to move from Wisconsin to Texas partly for opportunity but honestly also to get some peace. For 4 months things were calm, just phone calls. Then my family decided to move to Texas too. I took 4 days off work, flew out, and helped them move everything. During that trip my mom said she has the right to come to my house whenever she wants and do whatever she wants because I'm her son. I told her only if I invite her. She accused my wife of controlling me.

Three days after they arrived in Texas my wife called my sister to invite them over and my sister made a rude comment about how she should have called sooner. My wife hung up. I told all of them not to come because I'm tired of the same cycle repeating.

Now my older sister, who is actually reasonable, sent me a long message about how family is everything, mom sacrificed everything, don't let temporary problems destroy the bond, etc. I get it and I love my family. But here's what nobody wants to say out loud:

If any man treated my sisters the way my wife has been treated, my whole family would expect me to stand up for her. But when I stand up for my wife, I'm suddenly weak and being controlled.

I moved across the country for peace and the problem followed me. My wife at this point doesn't even want a relationship with them anymore and I honestly can't blame her.

Am I wrong for cutting them off until something actually changes?

My wife and I have been married 3 years and have a one year old daughter. My parents are practicing Muslims, my wife and I are Muslim but not as strict. From the beginning my mom and sister criticized my wife constantly — how she dresses, how she looks, how she should treat me. It caused endless fights between me and my wife early in our marriage and we almost divorced. When my wife gave birth my mom and sister showed up 30 minutes after and immediately started telling her how to feed our daughter. I got angry and asked them to leave. They didn't come around for 2 weeks. When I tried to reconnect and went to my parents house with my wife and newborn, my mom literally told my wife to leave. I walked out with my wife and didn't go back for a month. I decided to move from Wisconsin to Texas partly for opportunity but honestly also to get some peace. For 4 months things were calm, just phone calls. Then my family decided to move to Texas too. I took 4 days off work, flew out, and helped them move everything. During that trip my mom said she has the right to come to my house whenever she wants and do whatever she wants because I'm her son. I told her only if I invite her. She accused my wife of controlling me. Three days after they arrived in Texas my wife called my sister to invite them over and my sister made a rude comment about how she should have called sooner. My wife hung up. I told all of them not to come because I'm tired of the same cycle repeating. Now my older sister, who is actually reasonable, sent me a long message about how family is everything, mom sacrificed everything, don't let temporary problems destroy the bond, etc. I get it and I love my family. But here's what nobody wants to say out loud: If any man treated my sisters the way my wife has been treated, my whole family would expect me to stand up for her. But when I stand up for my wife, I'm suddenly weak and being controlled. I moved across the country for peace and the problem followed me. My wife at this point doesn't even want a relationship with them anymore and I honestly can't blame her. Am I wrong for cutting them off until something actually changes?