Hi all, I need a bit of relationship advice. I’m a bi woman dating another bi woman (were both late 20s/early 30s). We’ve been together for about a year now, and things have been going really well.
The romance, fun, and attraction are there, and I truly love her, but…the sex is making me feel a bit off. For some context, this is my first real relationship with a woman and in the past all my sexual partners have been men. And she isn’t really one to initiate sex, though she’s typically an enthusiastic yes when I make moves. But if I don’t initiate, we could go weeks with nothing happening.
Aaaand, she doesn’t really like being on the receiving end of things either. And maybe that sounds great, but over time, I end up feeling like I’m pretty much initiating sex where I’m receiving all the time and it just makes me feel…not great. It feels really uneven to me and like I’m just asking for sexual attention.
We’ve talked about it and she says being on top is her preference and she just isn’t super sex-minded that often, so she doesn’t think to initiate if I don’t. But I’m kinda used to past relationships with men where I’m being pursued much more and I‘m definitely not on the receiving end the whole time.
I’d really appreciate some advice on how to approach this conversation with her. Thanks!