Me (27F) and my boyfriend (27M) I broke down crying on a call, felt ignored, and now he’s mad at me for how I reacted
I (27/F) was on a video call with my boyfriend (27/M) on Discord when my mom called me. I muted our call and turned off my camera so I could talk to her privately.
During the call with my mom, we ended up talking about life and she asked if I was okay. I broke down crying because I’ve been very anxious lately about my future. I’ve been laid off twice before, and since I live alone and handle all my expenses, I constantly worry about suddenly losing my job again and not being able to support myself. My mom comforted me, and I was already very emotional when I returned to my boyfriend.
When I got back, he noticed my eyes were red and asked what happened. I tried to explain, but I couldn’t really speak properly because I kept crying. I eventually told him I just had a serious conversation with my mom about life and my worries.
After that… there was just silence.
He didn’t really say anything comforting or ask if I was okay. I waited for a few minutes, thinking maybe he was processing what I said, but I noticed he was smiling while typing and actively engaged in something on his laptop.
While I was still crying, I didn’t feel any concern, empathy, or emotional response from him in that moment, which made me feel even more alone. So I ended the call.
Afterwards, he messaged me asking me to come back and said I should talk about my frustrations during the call instead of just through chat. So I went back.
When I rejoined, I asked him "what?", and he apologized and said he wasn’t paying attention earlier.
I asked him what was so important that he couldn’t be present while I was clearly crying and upset.
He told me he was talking to his little sister’s 10-year-old friend while they were playing Adopt Me (a game).
Hearing that made me feel even worse.
I told him it felt like a "kid" was being prioritized over me in that moment. Now he’s upset at me for saying that I was “attacking” him and pointing out his faults.
For context, this isn’t the first time I’ve felt emotionally ignored when I’m vulnerable with him.