crush on boss - admit to bf
hi guys. i figured this was a good place to basically share this. hoping someone can at least relate.
i work for a small company <1000 people. i always found my boss (not really my boss per say, but the leader of my dept) and always found myself drawn to him. i find him endearing.
well overtime i got very uncomfortable with the feeling. my autism makes it so i feel limerance with others quickly + high moral scrupulously means i was beating myself up over feelings i felt that i can’t control.
finally i realized a breaking point. i kept drinking and drinking this weekend and i finally decided enough was enough. so. i came clean to my boyfriend about it. and he really shocked me. he was supportive and explained it’s completely normal to feel this way in a work context. what i explained is my boss feels like a giant teddy bear - comforting, approachable, down to earth. and my crush was more a crush of comfort. he actually explained most people feel this way and explained his own experiences.
it really helped me as an autistic woman because i felt so much guilt for having a crush. like i mentally cheated.
anyways i don’t know the moral i just wanted to share.