So my MIL has a drinking problem. It was bad and then it escalated after she retired. In the last few months, there have been several incidents.
I called her on a Friday afternoon around 2 and asked if she could watch my 3 year old daughter for a few hours in the evening. She said yes and sounded fine on the phone. So I packed up LO and drove 40 minutes to her house and she was absolutely wasted. Didn't remember that I had called, was surprised to see us. She tried to talk to LO while I got our stuff together to leave and literally collapsed on the floor on top of my daughter. I had to pull her off. Thankfully no one was hurt. Obviously we left.
My husband, daughter, and myself were over visiting. LO asked for some lemonade. FIL went and got her some from a pitcher. MIL took a sip to try it and said it was good then handed it to LO. LO took a drink and said it was yucky. My husband tried it and IT HAD VODKA IN IT. Again, we left.
Last time we went over, she was so drunk she was literally incoherent. I had to separate my daughter and put her to bed because I didnt want her to see her grandmother like that. My father in law is so desensitized that he literally did not realize she was intoxicated.
As a result of these incidents, they are no longer permitted to babysit LO, and MIL is not really allowed alone with her.
Everyone is very nonconfrontational so all this is kinda going unsaid. We did tell mil that she could not drink while watching LO, she agreed and apologized then continued to drink while watching her. Fil was there too so maybe she thought it didn't count, idk.
My husband is sad but supportive and I'm honestly just over it. We moved across the country to be near them and get support. We have no village or friends here and now have to hire a babysitter whenever we need to go somewhere, which we cannot afford.
This just sucks and is hard. I think we're reacting appropriately? Maybe we're under reacting, or maybe we should do an intervention but idk, she knows how much she drinks, if this is how she wants to spend her days then whatever. That sounds mean but I'm just so frustrated.
Thanks for letting me vent.