AITA? wedding invite from someone I never hear from
Got an invite to a wedding from someone I haven’t spoken to in a year, haven’t seen in 18 months, and before that saw once or twice a year at a common hobby event, so I don’t know her well. I have initiated every contact we’ve had for the 6 or so years since we met. My dad passed last year and she knew from fb but didn’t reach out or send a condolence card or even a text. The wedding is 4 hour drive away. To go to this wedding with gas, hotel, gift, dog boarding, etc would cost at least $500, and I’m just not feeling it. I don’t know the groom at all. The groom’s parents live in my same town and she has been here to meet them several times and hasn’t once called to say she is here,to get together, or to introduce us to him. And I know if we go, after the wedding it will go back to rare contact as they are moving even a bit farther.
AITA for declining the invite? Do I send a gift?
Update: thanks to multiple people here agreeing with my decision, I RSVPed no And feel relieved. I knew I wasn’t interested in putting for the time and money to attend for someone that will probably see rarely or never. I did send a small gift off the registry, but I kept it to a minimum and it was easy to send it through Amazon. Thank you for all the input.