How can I accept and move on from my bf breaking up like this?
Hi men of reddit
My bf (21M) and me (21F) recently have broken up. He left because he said he doesn’t want a relationship with me, or with anyone. I asked what I did wrong and he said nothing. He mentions how he only has to use his phone for work, isn’t obliged to talk to anyone he’s just doing his own thing and that’s what he wants right now. He’s a very smart n driven man and I love that about him, I’m the same in that sense.
I don’t know I just cannot wrap my head around this though.
I understand there are some men out there that want to focus and want no distractions and a partner later on in life and that’s what he’s mentioned before.
he still goes out with his boys in his free time, and so on. It’s like he does have time. I get it, spending time with boys is different to your partner but it’s not even about limit of time at this point.
He said I should “let go and detach from him” and tell myself “this man doesn’t care or want a relationship with me so I should move on and do my own thing”
My question is,
I’m just trying to understand this from a man’s perspective, does it mean something else?
Is it normal for men to do this, does it mean I’m simply not the one?
If there was a future together for us, what would have to be implemented as boundaries for us to work out,
if there is something he did in this time apart that I should not dismiss?