Maid of Honour to a Main Character Story where she cuts my son, only nephew of the groom, from the wedding.
My brother was getting married. I was really close with my bro so ended up very close to his fiance. We were best friends so naturally I agreed to be her MOH.
I had a baby, which my to be SIL loved, I actually made her his god mother. She always talked about how cute he'll be as a ring bearer. This is all just to show how close we were.
For her wedding I did everything she asked, I threw her the coolest bachelorette party. In fact, my son was exclusively breastfed, so my mom offered to pay for two hotel rooms where we were staying so her and my son could be there but totally separate from the party so I could switch rooms to feed the baby. It costed a fortune but was only trouble for me, but my mom helped since it was her son.
Now we'll get to the Bridezilla moment. Her mom threw her a bridal shower a month before the wedding. My son who is now 9 months old, but won't take a bottle, needs to come with me. I was the attentive MOH I played all the games, I did everything, and only stepped away in quiet moments to feed my kid. My mom mostly watched my son who was toddler walking and behaved amazing and everyone complimented him on his behaviour and cuteness. My mom didn't mind because it was mostly the bride's family.
So, near the end of the shower the Mother of the Bride, made a speech. During that speech my son got super excited about something and made some noise. Nothing crazy, and my mom was able to quiet him down right away, I didn't think twice about it. Mother of the Bride finishes her speech. It was a lovely shower.
Two days after the shower I get a text message that my son, is not only no longer the ring bearer but now he's not invited to the wedding. My son who won't take a bottle is not allowed at a wedding where I'm the MOH and it stuck there from 7am to close... I freaked out, what am I supposed to do, plus he has seperation anxiety and my whole family would be at my brother's WEDDING.
So I ask why? What happened? Apparently my son interrupted the mother of the Bride speech which really upset her mom. Plus the Bride would be very upset if he interrupted the wedding in the slightest. So now because my son made a small noise, which took attention for a nano second from the Bride, cannot attend his uncle's wedding. Which honestly I'd be ok with except he didn't take a bottle... What was I supposed to do! I wasn't a regular guest who could just leave whenever they wanted.
Anyway, long story short. My mother in law is amazing, she worked super hard for the weeks before the wedding to get him to take a bottle. Then she hung around outside the wedding so I could breastfed him in-between the ceremony and pictures. Then she took him home. He had seperation anxiety tho so if it got close to bed time he would scream for me. I ended up sending my husband to go get him and I said f to the Bride and brought him to the party after dinner. No woman was worth torturing my kid. Seems like I was right because she became my brother's ex-wife 8 months later...
Update a few points people focused on
- he was 9 months old that's why I wrote 9 months. I used "toddler" to describe the way he walked not his age. The plan was for my husband to bring him down the aisle, more cute and not about effective. This was her plan not mine.
-it caused a huge family rift. My brother was very upset and it caused a huge fight. I tried to quit the wedding. But my mother who had helped me deal with all this crap and is amazing asked me to try and make it work for my brother. My brother was stuck between his new family and his old. He 100 supported me if I wanted to drop out. I didn't for my mom. I would have added this but that part felt more like my family's personal choice. My husband, my mom and my mother in law said they'd do whatever for me and my son to be ok, because they are wonderful.