Boyfriend can’t seem to give a genuine apology
I (20F) have been with my boyfriend (21M) for over a year, and one recurring issue in our relationship is apologies and accountability.
There have been multiple situations where I’ve felt genuinely hurt or badly treated. Whenever I bring up how I feel, I often end up feeling like I have to beg for a sincere apology. Instead, he’ll usually just say “sorry” quickly in a way that feels ingenuine and then expect me to immediately move on and act happy again.
I’ve explained to him multiple times that this has left me feeling emotionally dismissed and unheard, because it feels like he just wants the situation over with rather than actually understanding why I’m hurt. It’s starting to make me question whether I’m asking for too much or whether this is a bigger issue with emotional maturity/accountability.
I’m not sure of how to deal with this as I am starting to feel a bit disconnected.
tl;dr My boyfriend’s apologies feel forced and dismissive, and I’m tired of having to beg to feel heard after being hurt.