AITAH for telling my sister that I don’t have to do anything for her?
I (33f) have a difficult relationship with my sister(37f), no matter what we do, nothing seems to work out for us. We have the same father, different mothers.
Growing up around her wasn’t as pleasant, you would think an older sister would be your role model. She was nothing like that, she was more mean, manipulative, disrespectful, oh and she made comments to make me think about for years. She never made me feel welcomed, or feel like her sister.
Her mom was active in her life, that’s why she got pregnant as a teen. And had more kids without finishing high school. Maybe she has resentment
No reason for a 11 year old to be insucere about their body, she loved to make comments on how I didn’t “bloom” yet so no boys would want me. I grew up and knew that I would never speak to her again. She wants a relationship with me but she said she can’t stop being mean even if she tried.
I kept my promise, we moved on wi the life and had families. She has 4 kids and a husband well about to be ex since he’s leaving her. her mom recently passed two weeks ago. so I passed on my condolences to my father. I have 3 kids, one on the way.
For the past 3 years, I’ve made it my goal to host a baby shower event for low-income moms that cant afford certain things. I pay for everything, they just come in and take whatever. We give diapers, formula, wipes, strollers, clothes, etc.
I always post to promote these stuff. I made a post on instagram a few days ago.
“Apparently” my sister seen saw it and got upset. She’s currently pregnant with her 5th. She texted me out of nowhere saying “funny” how I throw a baby shower for stragglers but I never offered to do anything for her or her kids. She’s doesn’t have the funds since her partner left.
I told her I don’t have to do anything for her or her kids because her and I don’t talk, I’m not her family, insulted me, so I don’t know why she’s asking me for her.
She told our dad, and he wants to be this fake “peace maker” he said I need to be the bigger person, she completely ignores everything she did and said to me.