Stuck in a loop
Hey y’all, I’ve found this sub to be so helpful over the course of my journey. My partner and I are living separately so I can fulfill my dream of parenthood. We’re staying together but not co-parenting and feel really secure in our decision. I’ve done two IUIs with a donor and no BFP yet but I’m continuing on (🤞)
I have such supportive family and friends and a stable and flexible job. The support I need is regarding housing, and I’d love to know what you would do in my situation.
Here are essentially my 2 options:
Stay with my parents with whom I have a great relationship.
Pros: save money, take a longer maternity leave, have the extra hands for help and support
Cons: lack of my own space, dad gets easily overstimulated by little kids, friends live 45 min awayBuy my partner out of our house, refinance, and live alone.
Pros: my own space, a house I love, a huge backyard, closer to friends and extracurriculars
Cons: less money saved, shorter maternity leave, no extra hands in the home.
I have a lot of experience with babies and children and do really value my own space. But I’m also really hesitant to enter parenthood without as much saved as I could have. What would you do?!