u/Impossible_Coffee451

Something happened in my last therapy session and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting (which is entirely possible). For background: seeking some help due to childhood and adult abuse.

I’ve always struggled with eye contact and asked my therapist for some tips on how to be more comfortable with it. She went through it with me and I demonstrated by looking at her and practising what she told me. She was giving me an example of how you might use eye contact to show that you’re still engaged with a person and the conversation but in other situations you would use touch. She then demonstrated that on me by leaning in and touching my leg a few times (briefly each time and to demonstrate the point so it wasn’t out of context.

I have a bit of an uncomfortable history with touch and don’t want to bring it up next session if it’s an overreaction.

Been in therapy for a couple of months due to an abusive past relationship. When talking about my own problems regarding physical intimacy, my therapist will sometimes reference herself and her husband. She doesn’t go into great detail but will talk about things like her husband initially thinking sex was the only way to know if their relationship was doing ok as he didn’t know how to communicate and that if her husband is in the mood, and she isn’t - she physically wouldn’t be able to have sex with him. I know some elements of self-disclosure is beneficial but it kind of makes me feel awkward when she brings herself into that kind of conversation.

I also feel like the conversation sometimes veers unnecessarily graphic. When discussing differences in male and female sexual desire for example (I was speaking in general terms) she said something along the lines of women just wanting to be kissed slowly all over their body.