My[25F]bf [28M] stopped contact with me idk what to do (og post got deleted)
My(25F) bf (28M) is mad at me because I told him I will visit him(he lives in Boston, I live in nyc) last weekend but last minute on Friday I told him I'm not able to anymore because I realized it was only 1 full day (sat) that I get to spend with him as I have work Sunday night plus my parents told me last min we have fam plans Saturday. So I told him that I will make it up by coming next weekend which is long weekend and we already planned to have a nice getaway that time. he got mad at me saying I got him excited and that if I didn't come then he doesn't wanna see me during the long weekend either. I told him I would appreciate it if he was more understanding about this and forgive me for not keeping my words on coming to see you but I will make it up the following weekend. He then says it’s fine but then went on and ignored all my messages and calls after that conversation. The following day(sat) I continued to message him updating him on what I was upto and called him but still no response but proceeds to post on Instagram. I then figured, I shouldn’t chase him if he’s purposely ignoring me so I stopped reaching out that Saturday. Now it’s been 5 days no text or call back from him. But those days he's been active on Instagram posting. For me it’s so weird to stay like this with no communication wth my boyfriend as I’ve never had a relationship toxic like this before. Long weekend is now approaching and I’m wondering how I should approach this situation. He is very egoistic and I'm thinking if Im the one to text him first it will boost his ego which I don't want. But I also know because he is very egoistic, there's less chance he will reach out to me. My real question is If he doesn't text me by this weekend I shouldn't go out of my way to visit him right and Im thinking I shouldnt be the one to message him first. Please I'm very confused i’ll take any advice 🙏
Context: we have been dating for almost 1 year (10months) and we are very close. But those 10 months it was a lot of ups and downs, sometimes even got to a point where we told each other its not working but then he will come back the next day telling me he wants to try again but proceeds to do things I voiced out I didn't like him doing (not communicating, not understanding, avoidant, immature).