I now understand “mourning your past self”
If I (f22) think about it properly iv likely been depressed for a very long time. At least since I was 14. I found report cards from school talking about how I was such a lively kid and had a huge can do attitude and how I would just do things. I remember being so excited to go to dance or theatre every week and probably spent every other minute of my days practicing. I also remember being such a big dreamer and having an almost unrealistic expectation for my life but I always thought “I’ll make it happen”.
I’m really sad that I seem to letting down that little girl that was more determined and stubborn than anyone I knew or know now. I sleep all the time and don’t really go out, my mum is emotionally abusive and yet I’m stuck living with her at this time because she got caught between a rock and a hard place, and what makes it worse is she used to be an amazing mum when I was younger.
As cringey or standard it sounds, I now cry at 3am when I think a bit too much about how I feel about myself and think “I just want to go home” even though I have a home and am currently in it. Or think “I need a hug” when I don’t like physical affection and have refused hugs from my best friend or my favourite “I just want to be normal”
And I worry almost daily that I’ll never be happy and THATS a tiring thought because what do you mean I can go get therapy or start meds or even just simply make it through to a time where I have a job I like, and a home I like and good people surrounding me but I’m still not satisfied, then what was all the tiredness and mental warfare for when this boring life is the result?
I wish I loved myself more when I was younger because now that I’m grown up I love her so much and think she was perfect. I’m not quite sure where I lost her along the way.
If you gave this a read thank you and I hope it makes you feel less alone. I’m not quite sure what the point of my post is but as you could probably determine it’s been a shitty day, and apparently giving reddit a rant has been tonight’s solution.
A nice thing iv learnt (that I still struggle to do) is keep a photo of your younger self nearby or on hand. Iv found it’s quite comforting telling that kid “I’m going to make you so proud”