u/ImpressivePudding844

I tried to talk to Therapist and forms, ChatGPT and all that shit on how to go about this, but obviously everyone wants me to do the right thing and be a good person and not cause emotional splitting and shitty things like that, but my girlfriend and I have a very unique situation where we have always known that if we weren’t together, we would still always be best friends and probably keep having sex at least one day. We are a bit codependent on each other. Definitely I am codependent, but my issue is that with this girl even though there’s so much trust and loyalty and love and things that I value, long-term, my sexual attraction and my love chemicals don’t turn on for her, and even in the beginning of the relationship didn’t turn on for her the way they do for other girls.

I can tell that I’m at this point where I’m starting to want to flirt with people and I feel very strongly like I wanna have sex with other people, but I very much don’t want her to have sex with other people unless I am, and I want to ensure that in the end I can be with this woman, now it is just not the right time my intellectual brain sees her as my lifetime mate because of everything she’s shown me and all the trust, but my primal brain/sex brain and I have tested this because there was a time that I had cheated on her and obviously I told her and we’ve been through that, feels that she doesn’t do it for me in terms of excitement and physical attraction and I usually need either drugs or porn to finish with her which she is into and is down for me to do that stuff, she just loves getting me off and it makes her feel so good.

I want a dynamic where I can keep her and know that I can go back to her at any point, but that I’m not ready to settle down at this age and I want to explore other women, and she has said before that we can totally be best friends and that it’s OK if I’m attracted to other people, but she won’t be labeled as my girlfriend if that’s the case and she will also probably try to fuck other people naturally, but I’m still scared to tell her yeah I just wanna be friends and take a break for now because if things don’t work out with their girls that I am attracted to now then I’m going to be really fucked up if I’m left dry and she’s getting all the action on Tinder or whatever.

I know this woman would love me for me always no matter what happened and so I need her to be my wife. I need her to stay in my life, but I’m not ready to settle down and I’m wanting to explore other options right now.

What type of dark psychology tools can I use in this situation to make sure things go the way I’m looking for

If this subReddit isn’t for this type of thing if someone could point me in the right direction that’d be great. Thanks