AITA for refusing to show up for my nephew's christening unless my father isn't there?
Hello reddit. I’m going to go straight into it, as I have been having a lot of different emotions and opinions thrown at me and could use the help. I (25f) recently became an aunt. Now what’s important to know is that me and my sister did not have a great relationship growing up, but are really close now and I talk to her almost every day. Our father was horrible to us. I won’t go into details, but he was neglectful, abusive and ended up leaving our mother for another woman. I haven’t spoken to him since then, which at this point is over 10 years ago, but my sister recently reconnected with him. He reached out to her, and my sister recently came to me about having our father meet the baby. Now it is her baby, so what she does with him is sadly none of my business, but I hated the idea and told her as much. That man should never be allowed to meet his grandkids. Not out of revenge, but because I don’t trust him around children, and because I feel as though it will feel like forgiveness if she lets him. Now my sister has invited our father over for the baby’s christening and because I am the godmother, I am sort of obligated to come. But I told my sister that if our father is there, I will not be there. I do not want to see that man, especially not on a day as special as this. Now this has lead to a big family fight where I am very clearly treated as the asshole for not wanting to show up for my godson, but that isn’t it. I made my reasons very clear. I am not comfortable being in a church with my father, nor at the reception after. If that means that the title of godmother has to go to someone else, I will accept that, but it does hurt to think having our father there is so important to her that she’d rather lose me than him. AITAH?