u/Impressive_City7426

I 25f have a 30m fwb.

We have been seeing eachother for 6 months or so. Very business only, we don’t even kiss goodbye ok.

Recently, he came over, and another guy I’ve texted on and off came over unexpectedly. I didn’t answer the door, I live where I work, I didn’t want them two getting into it.

This made my FWB super upset. Quiet. He kept telling me he can’t trust me, I’m lying, etc..

We started talking about it through text, I explained I understood that he was upset, I would be too given how the situation played out however I’m confused because I thought we were casual.

He never responded. I got a phone call a week later for our usual hook up. And we did hook up. I expected to finish the conversation he didn’t.

Well we didn’t. I texted him after saying

“ You said you don’t trust me, but instead of talking about it you ignored my text, came over, slept with me, and acted like nothing happened. I don’t really know what I’m supposed to do with that. “

And he said “ Just keep it this way “

And I haven’t responded. I’m not sad or anything but the dynamic has shifted. I’m thinking about ending it. I can’t do messy. I don’t know.

I have a little tug in my chest.

Advice needed please. I’ve never done FWB before. I imagine this is why people don’t. We were doing so well at casual till we weren’t.

I’ve been in a casual FWB situation with a guy for a while. We have never discussed our title. We do fuck with out condoms , however again we haven’t discussed boundaries, we don’t text unless we are going to meet up, he doesn’t even kiss me bye lol. He just says “ see ya later! “
Recently another guy I had been talking to/showing interest in unexpectedly showed up at my place. The timing was awful because my FWB was already there.
My FWB ended up seeing the situation unfold and it clearly affected him. He explained he doesn’t trust me anymore , he said I’m lying about not fucking him, who just shows up. He got quieter afterward and seemed genuinely hurt/bothered by it, even though we’ve always technically kept things casual and undefined.
I wouldn’t answer the door because I live where I work and he did start getting a bit upset , the guy who showed up is a police officer and honestly a little cocky, I didn’t need things escalating , not that they would but I don’t take that chance. That definitely looked worse. I live where I work, i can’t risk escalation and then losing my job.
My fwb did hook up still, it was normal, less affectionate but not any different to when we first started hooking up.
I apologized because I understood why the situation looked bad from his perspective, but now I’m confused because his reaction felt way more emotional. He never speaks about anything emotional and honestly i feel awful cause he just started asking about staying the night ( we have been meeting up for almost 6 months , only meet ups, hour and a half top ) within the past two weeks and he’s been a little more flirty, sweet, etc…

I don’t know howw to fix this. He has texted me asking me to meet up, I explained my off days and what not and again said I’m lying, he doesn’t trust me now. I feel awful. I really never slept with this dude. He went through our texts. We did flirt and what not, had plans for a date but I ghosted him honestly. He isn’t happy.

And clearly we both have some kind of feelings for each other. He still proceeded to sleep with me with out a condom right after that incident , he did explain that it made him upset mostly b/c we aren’t using protection which I AGREE and explained I’m not sleeping with anyone else BUT him.

I don’t know. How do I fix this? Does anyone have opinions or advice? It was casual until it wasn’t. All I’m hearing is “ AND YOU’RE EATING ME OUT IS IT CASUAL NOW !! “