Ex husband renting opposite me
Hi, brief history, my ex husband of 21 years left me suddenly 4 months ago and left me devastated. He left the family home to temporary accommodation and has been very controlling and manipulative since leaving.
He has been dictating when I can have the family car (barely never) when he’s having the children and won’t share any financial information. I’ve been a stay at home Mom most of the marriage.
We are going to Mediation as I feel safer in that format due to his controlling nature. He mentioned that he is going to be renting soon, but wouldn’t give me any information. We agreed in mediation that it is not fair to put the children in the middle of any discussions about contact or finances and that all communication should be done between us parents via email.
I have found out this evening that his will be renting the house opposite me, because he told our children and they came home all excited. I have to try and hide my response from them as I felt very shocked and upset.
I’m upset that he is moving so close as I am still recovering from the break up and have told him that I need space from him to give me chance to heal and grieve our 21 year relationship. I also feel very angry that he is openly discussing this with the children directly not informing me first so that I could have been prepared myself for when they shared with me.
I have been openly communicating with him about any updates with the children and calling him (despite feeling upset at having to speak with him) but when it is for our children best interests.