AMITA for not wanting to have a baby of color for aesthetic reasons?
Last Christmas Eve my step mom and I got into one of the biggest arguments we’ve ever gotten in. For context my fiance and I are white lesbians my step mom is black. She was telling me how excited she was about my fiance and I getting married. She ended up asking if we were ever going to have kids. My fiance and I have talked about it and we both absolutely do. I tell her this and she says it would cute if we had a baby with a guy from India. And I say oh that would be cute but I think it’s weird to have a baby for aesthetic reasons. She said why is that so weird. I told her that the race doesn’t really matter we aren’t just only going to have a baby they are going to grow up and become and adult so we want someone with good genetics. I also said it would feel like culture appropriation a little bit because nor I or my fiance have any culture tied to India and no one in a our family does. I just want who the doner is to have good genes (good mental and physical health) it’s truly the only thing that really matters when picking someone. The culture thing makes me feel a like weird because I don’t want to apporpiate anyones culture. Other than that I don’t think it matters. Any way I explain to her why I feel this way. And she starts screaming at me calling me a racist. She said I don’t deserve to have children if stuff like that is such a big deal to me. I told her that I was going to leave if she kept screaming at my in front of the entire family. I start crying. My fiance said she can see both sides. Am I the asshole?