Now listen this has gone on probably as long as I’ve had the cats but it has gotten worse in the past few months moving home. I UNDERSTAND Ive changed their living habits and how this affects behavior but it’s gotten out of control for me almost to the point of getting rid of one of them.
Neither one has ever been Super nice but they’ve always been nice to me. One’s a snuggler and the other… the owner of this house. Owner is constantly attacking the Snuggler and has done this since day one. They have been living together for 3 years. They used to sleep together but that slowly stopped although they could At Least coexist. Now Owner attacks to the point of no mercy after having moved. They’ve gotten closer again but even just being near her, smelling her in the air etc. turns into a shit show. Starting with growling then escalating but for sure always a growl. Like running from the opposite side of the room to pounce her. Now going from a small 1 bedroom to a full house they can have different sides of it it’s gotten worse and Owner acts as her name suggests. BUT BUT they keep putting me in the middle of it bc Snuggler won’t just leave Owner alone. Owner’s in a room Snuggler must follow, Owner goes outside Snuggler follows, every time if she hears her even slightly she runs directly to her and just sits and stares (Snuggles doing the staring). Like wise Owner goes and finds her just to bully her. I’ve tried playing with them separate but they just freeze looking at each other but they literally can’t leave each other alone. One growling the other docile that turns into full on battle. I can’t tell if Snuggler is making Owner uncomfortable with her staring but she is insistent on staring even after redirection. She’ll stop, go back, and just sit. They eat together and I’ve tried giving treats to encourage interaction but she’ll just eat her treats and the moment they’re gone go right back to it.
How this affects me though is that Snuggler is also a dumbass. I’m sorry she is. Everytime I take her outside no matter how much she begs (5 hours to be exact) she gets out there and starts hissing and damn near attacking me wanting to go back in after two minutes. She calms for a minute if I get to eye level but she’ll just go right back to it after something idk what the trigger is. Owner loves me and idk maybe Snug thinks I’m her property. Even with encouragement she won’t attack her back, sit with me, or just leave her alone. She gets beat up every time.
I need help figuring out ways to help their relationship but also my own. The stress makes Snuggler whiny and skiddish now plus Owner is an absolute bitch but I don’t want to punish her terribly bc it will just keep perpetuating the cycle. Regardless, they make me hate both of them and angry I got a second cat for this bitch to not be lonely and this is how she acts. I did not want this cat but I’m trying to make it work. I feel horrible I don’t want her but Ive also made amends with it. All I ever wanted from Owner was to cuddle. She hates it. So I have Snuggler to cuddle even though I hate every one of her mannerism. I kept her, but if she’s losing the one thing that made me keep her all this time I caaant. I see no point. Also I don’t want her to be traumatized by the bitch. She doesn’t deserve it. She’s actually quite sweet before the mayhem. Honestly, I wish she’d just beat up Owner. She’s literally twice her size but refuses and just takes it out on me.