How do you heal after someone you loved turns into someone who hates you?
Guys, I need to vent because I feel completely broken.
I used to know this guy since we were young. We were just friends at first, then he fell for me (I’m not even fully sure), and I fell for him too. For almost five years, he loved me, wanted to marry me, and even his family knew about me. His mom knew me too. But I kept telling him I wanted to finish my studies first.
This year, after I graduated, he asked again about getting engaged, but I still wasn’t ready. I stayed with him anyway, even though the relationship had become toxic. He was obsessed with me, and whenever he got angry, he would completely disrespect me and tear me down without caring who was in front of him. He also did things that made me realize he wasn’t the kind of man I wanted to spend my life with.
So I ended things, even though I still loved him. I cried so much over him.
Five months passed after the breakup. One day, his friend texted me, saying he liked me. I immediately said no and blocked him. Later, I realized that friend had deleted one of the messages to make it look like I was the one trying to talk to him. So I texted my ex to explain, but he refused to listen, blocked me everywhere, and accused me without even letting me defend myself.
That night, I called him while crying, and then a girl texted me saying, “I’m his fiancée, why are you calling him?” I honestly didn’t know he was engaged. That night destroyed me. I kept thinking: how could I be crying over him while he was happy and moving on with someone else?
What hurt even more is that the girl lives near me, and she insulted me too, calling me spoiled and disrespecting me for no reason. I felt so humiliated and misunderstood.
Then suddenly, he unblocked me and sent me more than 30 messages. He called me a cheater, accused me of betraying him with his friend, cursed me and even cursed my family, wishing death and cancer on us. He threatened to pass by my house and expose me, and he used personal things I had trusted him with against me.
I swear, if someone had told me one day there would be a person who truly hated me this much and wished me harm, I would’ve never believed it.
The worst feeling is the betrayal. He hurt me so many times even when we were together, yet somehow I still feel like I’m the one paying for everything while he just moved on happily with his life.
If you read all of this, please pray for me. 🤍