My cousin is currently pregnant, due in a couple of months and she threw herself a baby shower that was to be quite frank, sad. She has a daughter from a previous relationship, 14F, and that pregnancy was not the easiest for her and no-one was very supportive of it either. Her father had recently passed and her mother passed when she was a little girl. The baby's father was and still is a dead beat. There were complications when she was in labor and no-one visited the poor girl in the hospital. Now I was still quite young when this happened but I very much remember how she was treated. My parents had her move in with us after because I'm not entirely sure she had a place to go after. We took care of her and the baby, after some time she moved out and has been doing a wonderful job taking care of herself and her daughter since.
She is low/no contact with her ex and they've honestly thrived. After a long time and some duds she's found and marries the love of her life, he's kind and the family loves him. A "big thing" for him was having another child because her daughter is a teen and he wants a baby to fully raise, he loves her daughter and doesn't treat her any differently because she's not biologically his. She's pregnant now and I couldn't be more thrilled for her! She's older now and it is considered high risk, she's got preeclampsia and gestational diabetes, it goes without saying that it's been rough for her. e were a lot closer when I was younger but there is an age gap and we naturally drifted apart as people do when one is a teen and the other a fully grown adult with a child. Different priorities and responsibilities you know?
She doesn't have an awful lot of friends because a lot of the company she kept distanced themselves when her priorities changed with her daughter and then moreso with her new husband. Her baby shower consisted of a couple of aunts, uncles, a cousin with his wife and a whopping 2 of her husband's friends. They planned several games/prizes like a diaper raffle for a tv that was scrapped because only one person brought any. The decoration were simple but again, you could tell a heavily pregnant lady that's supposed to be on bed rest and her 10 hour work day exhausted husband who bless his heart has no vision had done it. I want to throw her a redo baby shower because I suspect, and was later told I was right, that she felt she had to throw it and do everything herself because no-one else would for her. I found the poor thing crying in the pantry for goodness sake. I'm worried that people will show up because the family friends I'm inviting would show up to anything for me but that the gift department will once again be a little sad. How could I nicely ask that they buy her something, anything really even the smallest thing to cheer her a bit and make her feel supported and celebrated? I know material things are not everything but truly my heart breaks for her and I hate that she's been made to feel like she and her baby aren't worthy of being celebrated by the people that should.