I’m kind of stuck and could use some outside perspective.
There’s this girl (F21) I’ve gotten really close to over time, and I’ve developed feelings for her. We talk pretty much every day and I genuinely value what we have.
I’m in a personal situation right now that makes it hard for me to fully express things, so I’ve kept my feelings to myself. I’ve tried to tell her a few times before but backed out each time, so I think she might already have some idea.
Now she’s leaving for a few months, and I don’t really know what to do with this.
Part of me feels like I should just be honest and tell her before she goes, so I’m not sitting on it for months. But at the same time, I don’t want to make things awkward right before she leaves or change the dynamic between us.
I’m not expecting anything from her and I’m not trying to start anything right now. I just don’t like keeping it in anymore.
So what would you do in this situation: tell her before she leaves, or leave it and deal with it later?